It’s like a common desease these days – overthinking leads to nothing good.
Ever since I was a young girl I used to calculate my every move – at least those I dared to do. You see, most of the times I tend to think an action over and over and over again and in the end, the moment is either lost or nothing ever goes according to plan.
One thing that is certain, though, is that each time overthinking took me over nothing good ever came out of it.
Let me tell you something I learned right when I entered the second decade. I get that you might think that in your 20s you are too young to know anything, and I respect that opinion, but let me tell you this: it’s in your 20s that the world feels like a classroom and you are the student who is trying to cope with everything. So, while I am going through this educational decade, I have found out that sometimes you have to trust your instincts. Sometimes you must break free from the things that are holding you back, even if one of those things is logic.
Now, don’t get me wrong – I am not ushering you to be out of control. I am simply saying that these days we all tend to analyze and overthink even the slightest detail, and calculate our every move. That’s not a bad or a good thing.
That happens because most people – me included- feel very safe and secure in their comfort zone, that the smallest risk feels like a mountain ready to fall on them. Sad, but true. Life, itself , is a risk. Everyday we face desicions and at times difficult situations, we often postpone even living our lives, because the fear or daring to do something out of the ordinary is great.
How are we supposed to live our lives if we don’t take chances?
Sudden desicions can be good or bad depending on the situation, but when you have to decide whether you are going on a road trip with your friends or not, don’t sit back to think things through and just grab the opportunity to have fun.
This is not a lecture, this is my honest opinion. The opinion of somebody who has spend months overthinking everything and as missed plenty opportunities because fear took over. If life really is about moments, then why waste time of your life to consider the length of your fear, why not take a chance and see what comes out of it?
To be honest with you, I still have some trouble with overthinking. It’s not easy to change your life in a day, but one thing I keep saying to myself is that at least I have identified the situation and I can find a way to work it out. How, you may ask? Well, the way it works for me is I go with my guts. If something feels right I do it right there and then, while I am in the moment, because I know that the second I even start to think of it I will back off.
Live in the moment. Live now. Live for you.
Sometimes I tend to forget that this is my life, that I am the one in charge of it and I can do – almost – whatever I want. Don’t put needless limitations to your life, put fear aside and dare to get yourself out there. Travel the world, date, try something new, visit that bar you spotted a few days ago on your way home, call that guy that asked you out, but you were too afraid to say yes, wear that dress that makes people’s jaws drop.
Be the person who simply enjoys being alive.
That’s a choice I made and it led me to magical places, follow me to those places.